Alternative Ancestral Offerings


My post yesterday got me thinking about different types of offerings other than the standard food, drink, candles, etc.

Some of these I already do, some of them are planned for the upcoming year and beyond.

I got to thinking that our ancestors had/have different love languages languages. And while food and drink and warmth and nice smelling things are always appreciated, maybe there would be other ways to bond with them

Like music for example. My grandmothers were young girls during the jazz age and Mothers during WW2. So I’ve pulled up Spotify and found playlists from those times that I will play when I spend time at my altar/desk

Handmade gifts that are a reflection of my own talents, like writing haikus and making origami stars to place by their photographs have been a daily addition these last few months

What I’m really ready to explore are acts of service and donations that speak specifically to how they lived their lives. One was the first female in her family to receive a college degree and was a first grade teacher for 40 years. Finding a way to donate to current young teachers who need classroom support in the form of time or supplies comes instantly to mind. There were also times of food insecurity, so donations to community food banks seems very appropriate.

And then of course, there is the ultimate gift. Your time. Your presence. Just spending 5 minutes at the start and close of my day to sit down with them. And take a deep breath. Say I love you. And thank you. What my plans are. How the day went. And then pausing and listening. I can’t begin to tell you how deeply this has impacted every aspect of my life in the past few years.

Those are just a few of my musings.
What kind of alternate love language offerings to your beloved dead appeal to you?

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